5 tips for managing fatigue when living with endometriosis.

Many women living with endometriosis experience fatigue. For some women with endometriosis, fatigue can be one of the more debilitating symptoms even to the point of effects work and relationships. Disease activity, pain levels, medications, age, poor mental and/or physical health, and the absence of sufficient social support are related to fatigue. You should always discuss your fatigue with your doctor to rule out any treatable causes of fatigue such as anemia, hormonal issues or another pathology.

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How to handle the laws of emotion

Q: Sam and I have always worked on our relationship, reading books, and attending workshops and seminars. We've resolved a range of problems over the years, but there is one destructive pattern that seems impossible to change. Sometimes, something is said or done that triggers an extreme reaction in one, or both of us. The anger, fear, and blame expressed is so intense you'd think we hated each other. What's going on?

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We should be happy together, but we're not.

Q: Ruth and I are coming up for our 10th wedding anniversary. We have two great kids (8 and 5), we both work, have a nice home, and should be happy together, but we’re not. We went through some tough times with health issues, a period of unemployment, and my mother’s transition into a nursing home, and, now things are calmer, we can barely talk to one another without it turning into a row. Can we get back on track, or is divorce inevitable?

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Self Love is the Most Radical Form of Self Care - 5 Health Benefits of Masturbation

I bet you are not surprised that a sex toy shop is going gaga for Masturbation month. If you’ve been hanging around here a while, you probably know that we are about more than just sales we are are all about your sexual wellness. A big reason why we love May so much is because of the health benefits of the month that promotes masturbation and we’re huge fans of self-pleasure. Did you know that according to Indiana University’s National Survey Of Sexual Health And Behavior, more than half of American adults say they masturbate up to four times a week. I wonder how often us Aussies enjoy considering we are among the highest consumers of sex toys (adjusted for population size) in the world.

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I am turned off by the thought of physical intimacy.

Q: I think our society is obsessed with sex. The pressure to look sexually attractive, same sex relationships, sexual abuse, assault and harassment, controversy about contraception and abortion, infidelity, sex-ed in schools, worries about porn, or STIs … it seems to be everywhere you look. I think I must be a freak. I am not sexually attracted to anyone, of any gender, or body type. I have had deep friendships, bordering on what I suppose is love, but I have absolutely no inclination to become physically intimate with people. Is there something wrong with me?

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Our 9 Best Sex Toys For Female Masturbation 

The conversation surrounding female masturbation has thankfully undergone a huge, positive turn around in recent years, and so has the way sex toys are designed and marketed as well as how we talk about the sex toys for women. We even have a month on the awareness calendar dedicated to masturbation – yes May is Masturbation Month. We've come a long way from the belief that females don't have sex drives, or at the other extreme that we are should always be turned on like a porn star. Now a you can find the best, most satisfying vibrators with the click of a mouse in shame, porn free websites like Bliss. 

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I'm drawn to both of them but don't want to ruin the friendship.

Q: My singing teacher, Greg, is charismatic and kind. When he met Ann, he introduced us, and I was happy he'd met such a lovely woman. We've all become friends. Ann's supported me with my depression, and Greg's given freely of his advice and encouragement. They take me out, and see me individually, have taken me into hospital, and done things beyond mere friendship. Ann's said she loves me, and …

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What went on at the office party: Coping with the corrosive effects of gossip

Q: I am part of a large social group that I won't identify. Last month, we had our annual Christmas party, which got pretty lively. Now there's a story going around that one of the female members, who doesn't usually drink a lot, was drunk, and was seen fellating a married man in the car park. I feel very uncomfortable about this gossip because it is such a great group of people, and I know the woman, but I don't know how to react.

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5 Tips For Talking To Your Teens About Sex & Sexuality For A Positive And Healthy Sexual Journey

Be Brave - Teens need lots of information-more than you (and they) might realise or be willing to discuss. Rest assured the evidence tells us time and time again that young people who are given adequate, accurate information at home and school have better outcomes later on in life such as less teen pregnancies and less STI’s. Many delay sexual intercourse to a later age.

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5 tips for self care but not as you know it.

No matter how many times someone tells you self care is not selfish it is an important part of managing your symptoms and improving your wellbeing that little voice inside you still screams, what about this and that, we should do this for such and such, you don’t have time you have to……… We are socialised to care for others and self care is an indulgent use of time. For others self care is a sign that they can’t keep up and it is a sign of weakness. However, a very practical illustration of the importance of putting yourself first and one that most of us can intellectually process when the plane is going down you put your own mask on first then you help others including your children. If you can’t breathe you can’t help others, just as if you don’t take time to care for yourself you can’t do all those ‘should’ things for others in your life.

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‘‘Remind yourself that you also have habits that others might find annoying.’’

Q: Ray and I haven’t been getting along well lately, and I feel irritated and annoyed by almost everything he does – the way he sips his coffee, hums under his breath when concentrating, leaves shaving hair in the sink, and the way he bunches up the damp tea towel, and drops it in the draining rack. He’s actually a great guy, and even writing this makes me feel like a mean, hypercritical nit-picker. What is wrong with me?

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7 tips to clean your toys. Yes, you have to clean your toys!

Do you take care of your grown-up toys as well as you took care of your childhood favourite toys? Do you take care of your adult sex toys as well as you take care of your other grown up toys, your TV, Video Game console, Care, or even your gym gear? No, why not? Your sex toys deserve some TLC. If you are taking care of them properly you are taking care of yourself, particularly when it comes to keeping them clean.

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How can using a vibrator during sex increase intimacy in your relationship?

You might ask how can intimacy be increased by using a vibrating piece of silicone or plastic? Intimacy has been defined as a situation in which you have a close relationship with someone in which you do or say things that you would share with someone you are close to. The simple answer is shared pleasure and the building of connection when you observe that shared pleasure. Add in a little bit of fun, novelty, spice and variety to your relationship and that little vibrator has its own magic.

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