Pelvic floor health is an important part of women’s health and has an impact on sexual health, sexual pleasure and function. It can impact bowel and urinary function as well. In order to address the question what is pelvic floor health we spoke to Sami Cattach from Body and Birth Physio to find out more. This article explains how the muscles in the pelvic floor work and some simple steps to look after your pelvic floor.Read More
You always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself - Glinda from The Wizard of Oz.
Hitachi style wands have been best sellers since they were invented in the 70s, wands and other clitoral stimulators are by far the most popular products in our store. We are under no illusion as to why wands are such popular sex toys for women because they deliver fantastic orgasms – power and direct stimulation.Read More
When people find out I am a sexologist - sexuality educator I get some odd questions. Though the most common question I get is what is your most effective sex tip? It is simple and one of my favourite topics.
Touch, Touch more.
Sounds simple doesn’t it? Yes, but touching more often in your relationship has the power to transform your sex life. If you are thinking about spicing up your sex life, you may be thinking blindfolds and other things inspired by 50 shades and touch is probably not the first things that comes to mind. Most people think they need to do more elaborate stuff but it really can be a simple as starting with touching more.Read More
Q. Gemma got her Labrador, Arnie, for her 11th birthday. He’s half deaf, has arthritis, and is pretty smelly, but she’s besotted. I get it, but he’s a passion killer. I never sleep at her place because the dog sleeps on her bed, and he snores and farts all night. She’ll come to my place, but won’t sleep over because she won’t leave Arnie alone. We can’t go away for the weekend, or even for a long day trip, because he gets sick in the car. Gemma’s great, but I’m tired of being tied down by a dog.Read More
Q: "One of my fears is that I will never have an orgasm - on my own or with a partner. I feel like I am missing out and it is not fair. I am scared that there is something wrong with me and that I will never be enough. It feels like everyone else knows how to orgasm."
This statement from a email query received covers so many myths about female orgasm. If you had a gut reaction when you read that, stop, take a deep breath and know you are not alone.Read More
Let’s start with what the G-Spot is? It is an area on the front inside wall of the vagina, it feels a little spongier than the tissues around it and produces strong orgasms and sometimes female ejaculation when stimulated. There there is still some debate about the G-spot and how it works. The G-spot is located one to three inches the front inside wall of the vagina. Inserting a finger and making a "come hither" motion will help you locate it. It is believed to be an internal portion of the clitoris that you can stimulate with this motion.
Most women report that achieving an orgasm from G-spot stimulation is a different type of orgasm than one from clitoral stimulation, it tends to be more. There are vibrators and other sex toys specially designed to stimulate the G-spot and doggy style is known to be a good way to stimulate itRead More
Q: A number of years ago I had uterine cancer and as a result I have to dilate every other day. I am currently using a medical dilator and it is not very comfortable and I would like to purchase something that is not as hard. It would be great if it was something that is targeted more for pleasure than just dilation. I was hoping you might be able to point me in the right direction.Read More
There is nothing wrong with saying no.
You do not need to be a sex goddess and turned on all the time.
There is a very big difference between saying no when you need to in order to take care of you and saying no in order to avoid intimacy. If you are in a place where you are avoiding intimacy beacuse it causes you pain, because it makes you anxious or there is something else going on, it is ok to ask for help. There are professionals that can help you.
You are not alone and you are worth it.Read More
Knowing it is OK to use lubricants. Knowing the importance of and using quality lubricants. Lubricants, vaginal moisturisers and other adult toys can help increase your pleasure and comfort. Using quality lubes, toys or other products is important for your health and your pleasure.
Uncomfortable. Painful. Dry.
Would you describe sex using any of these words? If you do, then lubricants may be your new best friend. In fact, even if these words aren’t what you would use to describe intercourse, lubricants are still your best friend.Read More
Q Brett and I (early 30s) have been together for 6 years, and have two children (3 and 1). Brett’s a wonderful guy who works hard, is great with the kids, and is loving and supportive of me. He’s been very patient about my lack of interest in sex, but I know he’d like our old sex life back. I love him, but feel no desire. Help.
A You are going through one of life’s most profound transitions. Regardless of age, becoming a parent changes you as fundamentally as adolescence did. Your hormones and your lifestyle have been disrupted. Things will never be just as they were, any more than Brett is likely to rekindle his passion for Spider-Man, nor you, for princesses.Read More
Isiah McKimmie’s podcasts have graciously been shared with the Bliss Community. We love her work and we are grateful that she is allowing us to share her podcast through Bliss. In this podcast Isiah answers the question Am I in a Sex Rut and how do I get out of it?
Does Isiah have any tips? Of course she does! It’s this kind of real sex education that we at Bliss love and we are positive you will too.
If you have asked yourself a similar question then this is a great podcast to listen to. If sex started out fun and exciting (and on a regular basis), but then life happened…
If life got busy, you got tired and if you feel like you are too familiar with each other and there is not mystery or spark anymore. Do feel like things are a little lack-lustre in the bedroom.Read More
Does this sound familiar?
101 things on my to do list - Fatigued and pained - Too busy, Too tired - My scars are ugly - Hurry up or no that is not right.
Who has all this and far more going on in their head?
It’s all that distracts us during intimacy & sexual experiences. I make that distinction on purpose. There is an abundance of pleasure, connection & health benefits to be had in non sexual, consensual touch. Being able to be mindful during those interactions is sexual self care.Read More
Q: On June 30 you attempted to take gender out of a discussion on controlling behaviours and domestic abuse, but the bulk of the piece seemed aimed at women. It is less common, but men can also be psychologically, physically and sexually abused by women. Where can they go for help?
A: Society does tend to see women as victims and men as perpetrators. So many women are dying at the hands of their male partners that public attention and resources are, quite rightly, focused on that sector. By mentioning the high rate of male suicide I was attempting to broaden our understanding of the negative effects of domestic dysfunction.Read More
Spontaneous sex is a romantic notion that modern life does not always allow and health challenges chuckle at. Make a date and commit to it, manage your time, your energy and your connection in the lead up to it. Place a priority on your connection and your pleasure. Talk about it and what you are ready for before hand. It tell your partner what your boundaries are and it also builds anticipation.
Remember life happens so it is OK to change plans but try not to make it every time – that’s not priority or commitment. Start small.
Isiah McKimmie’s podcasts have graciously been shared with the Bliss Community. We love her work and we are grateful that she is allowing us to share her podcast through Bliss. In this podcast Isiah will talks about How and where to start when you haven’t had sex in months or years.Read More
This could be a long one. Do not let your definition of sex be defined by porn or what you see in Hollywood romance movies.
Sex and pleasure are a smorgasbord and you get to choose what works for you. You can even change your mind and/or go back for seconds. Its all the fun, pleasurable, cheeky, exciting stuff you can get up to before orgasm, before intercourse and even before your clothes come off. It is pleasure in whatever form that takes for you.
Once you understand that sex is broader than many people think it opens up a whole new world to explore. Then the trick is to be able to communicate that to your partner(s).
It is safe to assume that most of us a pretty good at communicating in most situations in life. We are taught from a young age how to communicate what we need and want. Then there is sex and we are for the most part not taught about and not all that great at. Research (Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy) tells us that sharing sexual needs and desires with your partner positively improves relationship satisfaction.Read More
This refers to communication with your health professionals about treatment options and sexual function outcomes or problems you are having. It also refers to communication with your partner. Sometimes sex is hard to talk about, family, religion, cultural norms etc.. can all impact on how comfortable we are talking about sex. Communication is key. Learning to work together is an important part of sharing pleasure. Patience is with yourself, your partner and your health professional. We are all human and this is hard, but worth it.
Communication takes work. A lot of it. How often have you walked away from a conversation with your partner feeling angry, disappointed or misunderstood especially when it has to do with sex? How often have you said things you regretted, things that hurt your partner unnecessarily? How often have you wished for more open and honest communication with the person your intimate partner?Read More
Pleasure is the ultimate form of sexual self care or self care in general. Pleasure is an important part of a happy healthy life and a priority in general self care and sexual self care. It encompasses all the points before it and more.
Valuing your pleasure is a part of valuing, accepting and loving yourself. It can be a great way to support your mental health. Having said that it can be hard for many women to stop and take care of themselves first because we are taught to take care of others.Read More
It doesn’t just mean what you like sexually. We experience pleasure in all areas of our life. Illness and other stressors can change many aspects of our lives including how we experience pleasure and what we enjoy and appreciate. It forces us to face these changes so that we can move forward. Mindful self touch, like meditating can settle our mind, and our body. Pleasure mapping solo or partnered can be a non sexual to redefine pleasure. Pleasure mapping can also be used to start to explore pleasure in sexual touch.Read More
Q: I’m 30, single, and live alone. My job brought me to Melbourne, where I don’t know many people. I mainly work from home and, when I do go into the office, people are friendly but much older than me. How can I stop feeling lonely and miserable?Read More