Posts in Communication
What went on at the office party: Coping with the corrosive effects of gossip

Q: I am part of a large social group that I won't identify. Last month, we had our annual Christmas party, which got pretty lively. Now there's a story going around that one of the female members, who doesn't usually drink a lot, was drunk, and was seen fellating a married man in the car park. I feel very uncomfortable about this gossip because it is such a great group of people, and I know the woman, but I don't know how to react.

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5 Tips For Talking To Your Teens About Sex & Sexuality For A Positive And Healthy Sexual Journey

Be Brave - Teens need lots of information-more than you (and they) might realise or be willing to discuss. Rest assured the evidence tells us time and time again that young people who are given adequate, accurate information at home and school have better outcomes later on in life such as less teen pregnancies and less STI’s. Many delay sexual intercourse to a later age.

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5 tips for self care but not as you know it.

No matter how many times someone tells you self care is not selfish it is an important part of managing your symptoms and improving your wellbeing that little voice inside you still screams, what about this and that, we should do this for such and such, you don’t have time you have to……… We are socialised to care for others and self care is an indulgent use of time. For others self care is a sign that they can’t keep up and it is a sign of weakness. However, a very practical illustration of the importance of putting yourself first and one that most of us can intellectually process when the plane is going down you put your own mask on first then you help others including your children. If you can’t breathe you can’t help others, just as if you don’t take time to care for yourself you can’t do all those ‘should’ things for others in your life.

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‘‘Remind yourself that you also have habits that others might find annoying.’’

Q: Ray and I haven’t been getting along well lately, and I feel irritated and annoyed by almost everything he does – the way he sips his coffee, hums under his breath when concentrating, leaves shaving hair in the sink, and the way he bunches up the damp tea towel, and drops it in the draining rack. He’s actually a great guy, and even writing this makes me feel like a mean, hypercritical nit-picker. What is wrong with me?

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How can using a vibrator during sex increase intimacy in your relationship?

You might ask how can intimacy be increased by using a vibrating piece of silicone or plastic? Intimacy has been defined as a situation in which you have a close relationship with someone in which you do or say things that you would share with someone you are close to. The simple answer is shared pleasure and the building of connection when you observe that shared pleasure. Add in a little bit of fun, novelty, spice and variety to your relationship and that little vibrator has its own magic.

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The three words that could keep your relationship alive

Q: My partner and I have a great life, and a terrific family, but it feels like something’s missing. We both rush around with work, kids’ activities, and our own clubs and hobbies. We rarely fight, but we also rarely connect as a couple. Sometimes it seems like we live parallel lives, and I’m not sure what we would do if we were left alone for any length of time. How can we revive our relationship?

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5 Reasons Physical Touch is So Important

Touch is a sense that in today’s busy digital age we are engaging in less and less. This arguably plays a part in the increase in loneliness, mental and emotional health issues of today. Despite the many positives that technology has brought to our lives or innate need for connection has not evolved to the point where touch is no longer needed for our physical and emotional health – no not even robotic sex dolls can replace consensual, pleasurable human touch. Physical touch is vital for our health.

A favourite topic of mine.

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