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The Bliss Guide to Menopause.

Sexual problems are far more common across the life span for those of us with vulva’s and vagina’s then most people realise. There are times through our life that this is more likely to occur and peri menopause is one of those times. Hormone changes may contribute to the likelihood that you will experience sexual issues, but it is important that we are not only blaming hormones, sex and intimacy is far more complicated than that. It is important that the whole person is taken into account including relationship issues, how you feel about yourself, mental and emotional health, physical health, medications, the messages you hold about sex as well as what menopause means as a woman.

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11 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Sex and Menopause.

Menopause is an important women’s health issue that is still shrouded in silence. Add sex into the conversation and things get taboo. This is the first article about menopause and sex, a cataylst for this important conversation.

It is important to know if you are having a problem with sexual function during menopause, there is a very good chance it is not in your head and you are not alone.

1.   Younger women and older women can go through menopause and sex is still something they want in their lives. 

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World Sexual Health Day 2019, 4th September 2019

“Sexuality Education for all: a bridge to sexual health.”

This year is all about the importance of comprehensive sexuality education (CSE) for all age groups and contexts. The aim is to emphasize that people of all ages and backgrounds should have access to sexuality education.

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Pelvic Floors - Too short, too long or just right?

Pelvic floor health is an important part of women’s health and has an impact on sexual health, sexual pleasure and function. It can impact bowel and urinary function as well. In order to address the question what is pelvic floor health we spoke to Sami Cattach from Body and Birth Physio to find out more. This article explains how the muscles in the pelvic floor work and some simple steps to look after your pelvic floor.

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What is the most effective sex tip you have given?

When people find out I am a sexologist - sexuality educator I get some odd questions. Though the most common question I get is what is your most effective sex tip? It is simple and one of my favourite topics.

Touch, Touch more.

Sounds simple doesn’t it? Yes, but touching more often in your relationship has the power to transform your sex life. If you are thinking about spicing up your sex life, you may be thinking blindfolds and other things inspired by 50 shades and touch is probably not the first things that comes to mind. Most people think they need to do more elaborate stuff but it really can be a simple as starting with touching more.

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Post uterine cancer treatment do I have an option that is more targeted at pleasure than a dilator?

Q: A number of years ago I had uterine cancer and as a result I have to dilate every other day. I am currently using a medical dilator and it is not very comfortable and I would like to purchase something that is not as hard. It would be great if it was something that is targeted more for pleasure than just dilation. I was hoping you might be able to point me in the right direction.

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Sexual self care is knowing it is ok to use lubrication or other aides to improve your comfort and pleasure.

Knowing it is OK to use lubricants. Knowing the importance of and using quality lubricants. Lubricants, vaginal moisturisers and other adult toys can help increase your pleasure and comfort. Using quality lubes, toys or other products is important for your health and your pleasure.

Uncomfortable. Painful. Dry.

Would you describe sex using any of these words? If you do, then lubricants may be your new best friend. In fact, even if these words aren’t what you would use to describe intercourse, lubricants are still your best friend.

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Where can abused men get help?

Q: On June 30 you attempted to take gender out of a discussion on controlling behaviours and domestic abuse, but the bulk of the piece seemed aimed at women. It is less common, but men can also be psychologically, physically and sexually abused by women. Where can they go for help?

A: Society does tend to see women as victims and men as perpetrators. So many women are dying at the hands of their male partners that public attention and resources are, quite rightly, focused on that sector. By mentioning the high rate of male suicide I was attempting to broaden our understanding of the negative effects of domestic dysfunction.

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Sexual self care is valuing your pleasure.

Pleasure is the ultimate form of sexual self care or self care in general. Pleasure is an important part of a happy healthy life and a priority in general self care and sexual self care. It encompasses all the points before it and more.

Valuing your pleasure is a part of valuing, accepting and loving yourself. It can be a great way to support your mental health. Having said that it can be hard for many women to stop and take care of themselves first because we are taught to take care of others.

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20 Fun Facts about Fun Factory

This was an article originally published by Fun Factory

# 1 In 1996 Dirk Bauer and Michael Pahl, recent university graduates, sat down to design a silicone dildo. This is FUN FACTORY’s origin story. 

#2 Bauer and Pahl wanted to make a visually appealing, body-safe alternative to the hyper-realistic, flesh-tone, chemical-smelling sex toys that made up the market at the time.

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How parents can talk to their children about sexual education.

Q: Lucy (10) and Ben (12) are great kids, and get on well with Ian and I, but puberty is approaching. I want to keep the channels of communication open between us, but I know teenagers often shut their parents out. I would love it if they felt they could talk to us if something concerns them, especially in the area of sexuality, but I feel pretty ignorant and at a loss about modern sex – sexual orientation, porn, STIs, sexting and so on. How can I get better informed, and springboard this kind of conversation?

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Sex without pain is a basic human right!

Sex is meant to be about pleasure and not pain, right? The American survey, the ‘National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour’ described as the ‘the largest national sex survey ever published’, found that one in three American women experienced some pain the last time they had sex. 75 percent of women have experienced pain during sex at some point in their lives, according to the American College of Gynecologists and Obstetricians. Painful sex happens for a whole range of reasons, including endometriosis, adenomyosis, pelvic floor issues and the list goes on.  

Does this concern anyone else? It is one of the reasons we do what we do. The wall of silence around women’s sexual wellness, pleasure and quality of life needs to be taken down. 

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What to do if you love a position but it hurts.

Whether it is doggy style or you on top, each to their own. I think we can all agree it sucks when something you and your partner enjoyed is disrupted when your favourite position hurts. It is actually very common for women to experience discomfort or pain during sexual intercourse. It is also very common that we try to ignore it, by just doing it without complaining or we avoid sex. Neither does you or your partner any favours.

If working out ways to get into your favourite positions and getting back into having sex with your partner appeals to you then keep reading.  

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I have a medical condition that makes sex painful

Q: I am a 32-year-old woman. For almost a year I’ve been receiving treatment for a medical condition that can make penetrative sex painful. This makes it difficult for me to relax, and enjoy, sexual intercourse. Most painful is deep penetration, so I am always tense and concerned that my partner might get carried away. This is putting a strain on my relationship. Is there anything I can do to overcome this depressing situation?

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5 tips for managing fatigue when living with endometriosis.

Many women living with endometriosis experience fatigue. For some women with endometriosis, fatigue can be one of the more debilitating symptoms even to the point of effects work and relationships. Disease activity, pain levels, medications, age, poor mental and/or physical health, and the absence of sufficient social support are related to fatigue. You should always discuss your fatigue with your doctor to rule out any treatable causes of fatigue such as anemia, hormonal issues or another pathology.

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Self Love is the Most Radical Form of Self Care - 5 Health Benefits of Masturbation

I bet you are not surprised that a sex toy shop is going gaga for Masturbation month. If you’ve been hanging around here a while, you probably know that we are about more than just sales we are are all about your sexual wellness. A big reason why we love May so much is because of the health benefits of the month that promotes masturbation and we’re huge fans of self-pleasure. Did you know that according to Indiana University’s National Survey Of Sexual Health And Behavior, more than half of American adults say they masturbate up to four times a week. I wonder how often us Aussies enjoy considering we are among the highest consumers of sex toys (adjusted for population size) in the world.

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5 tips for self care but not as you know it.

No matter how many times someone tells you self care is not selfish it is an important part of managing your symptoms and improving your wellbeing that little voice inside you still screams, what about this and that, we should do this for such and such, you don’t have time you have to……… We are socialised to care for others and self care is an indulgent use of time. For others self care is a sign that they can’t keep up and it is a sign of weakness. However, a very practical illustration of the importance of putting yourself first and one that most of us can intellectually process when the plane is going down you put your own mask on first then you help others including your children. If you can’t breathe you can’t help others, just as if you don’t take time to care for yourself you can’t do all those ‘should’ things for others in your life.

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7 tips to clean your toys. Yes, you have to clean your toys!

Do you take care of your grown-up toys as well as you took care of your childhood favourite toys? Do you take care of your adult sex toys as well as you take care of your other grown up toys, your TV, Video Game console, Care, or even your gym gear? No, why not? Your sex toys deserve some TLC. If you are taking care of them properly you are taking care of yourself, particularly when it comes to keeping them clean.

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