Posts in Sexuality
The Bliss Guide to Menopause.

Sexual problems are far more common across the life span for those of us with vulva’s and vagina’s then most people realise. There are times through our life that this is more likely to occur and peri menopause is one of those times. Hormone changes may contribute to the likelihood that you will experience sexual issues, but it is important that we are not only blaming hormones, sex and intimacy is far more complicated than that. It is important that the whole person is taken into account including relationship issues, how you feel about yourself, mental and emotional health, physical health, medications, the messages you hold about sex as well as what menopause means as a woman.

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11 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Sex and Menopause.

Menopause is an important women’s health issue that is still shrouded in silence. Add sex into the conversation and things get taboo. This is the first article about menopause and sex, a cataylst for this important conversation.

It is important to know if you are having a problem with sexual function during menopause, there is a very good chance it is not in your head and you are not alone.

1.   Younger women and older women can go through menopause and sex is still something they want in their lives. 

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The problem with Kegels!

Before we start we will say yes we do stock Kegel eggs, Ben Wa Balls and Kegel exercises.

We believe that every woman needs to see a pelvic physiotherapist at different points through her life.

We firmly believe that a healthy pelvic floor is an important part of our health that we do not get taught about and we do not talk about enough.

We believe that kegels have a place in pelvic health but only if you know they are right for you. That is where the pelvic physiotherapist and assessment comes in.

Kegels are not for everyone and that is OK.

The fantastic Sami from Body & Birth Physiotherapy has allowed us to share this information with our readers so that you can make an informed choice in your purchasing at Bliss. We are are so happy to be able to share quality information for an expert in pelvic health with you.

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World Sexual Health Day 2019, 4th September 2019

“Sexuality Education for all: a bridge to sexual health.”

This year is all about the importance of comprehensive sexuality education (CSE) for all age groups and contexts. The aim is to emphasize that people of all ages and backgrounds should have access to sexuality education.

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What Turns You On? The 4 Steps to Discover What You Enjoy Sexually

We are proud to announce that we are sponsoring Isiah McKimmie’s podcast Wholehearted: Love, Sex & Intimacy. The following is the first one and we love it. It is a little surreal hearing an advertisement of your business for the first time but it is also amazing. We are so excited to be working with Isiah.

Isiah loves helping women become sexually empowered, which we are all about! Isiah and the Bliss Team both come across this often, women will say “I don’t know what I like. How do you find out? How do I tell my partner what I like?”

And partners will say “I wish I knew what she really enjoys sexually. I try to ask but she says she doesn’t know. I just want to please her.”

In this podcast Isiah shes tips to help discover epic pleasure:

  • Vital factors of a woman’s turn on

  • Her 4 step formula to discover what you really enjoy

  • Playful ways to explore with yout partner

  • Sexy suggestions from other women.

You can listen to the podcast here.

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Schedule sex, does that mean our relationship is doomed?

Q. We have both been so busy lately the only time we seem to have sex is when we actually schedule it into our calendars. If it is not something we have accepted in our calendars we either hit our pillows and pass out or I go to bed exhausted first and he comes to bed later. It makes me feel like we are doomed. Help are we doomed?

A: This is linked to one of the most common questions I get - should we schedule sex? How do we schedule sex and not get in a rut? The thought of scheduling sex scares people they believe that if they’re not having spontaneous sex, something must be wrong with their relationship, or with their sexual chemistry or that their relationship is doomed. Some even see that making the decision to schedule sex feels like an admission that their sex life is officially doomed. So, is it?

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Orgasm myths getting in the way of your pleasure.

Q: "One of my fears is that I will never have an orgasm - on my own or with a partner. I feel like I am missing out and it is not fair. I am scared that there is something wrong with me and that I will never be enough. It feels like everyone else knows how to orgasm."

This statement from a email query received covers so many myths about female orgasm. If you had a gut reaction when you read that, stop, take a deep breath and know you are not alone.  

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What is in a name? 4 other ways to use a G-Spot vibrator

Let’s start with what the G-Spot is? It is an area on the front inside wall of the vagina, it feels a little spongier than the tissues around it and produces strong orgasms and sometimes female ejaculation when stimulated. There there is still some debate about the G-spot and how it works. The G-spot is located one to three inches the front inside wall of the vagina. Inserting a finger and making a "come hither" motion will help you locate it. It is believed to be an internal portion of the clitoris that you can stimulate with this motion.

Most women report that achieving an orgasm from G-spot stimulation is a different type of orgasm than one from clitoral stimulation, it tends to be more. There are vibrators and other sex toys specially designed to stimulate the G-spot and doggy style is known to be a good way to stimulate it

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Sexual self care is saying no when you need to & asking for help when you need it.

There is nothing wrong with saying no.

You do not need to be a sex goddess and turned on all the time.

There is a very big difference between saying no when you need to in order to take care of you and saying no in order to avoid intimacy. If you are in a place where you are avoiding intimacy beacuse it causes you pain, because it makes you anxious or there is something else going on, it is ok to ask for help. There are professionals that can help you.

You are not alone and you are worth it.

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Sexual self care is knowing it is ok to use lubrication or other aides to improve your comfort and pleasure.

Knowing it is OK to use lubricants. Knowing the importance of and using quality lubricants. Lubricants, vaginal moisturisers and other adult toys can help increase your pleasure and comfort. Using quality lubes, toys or other products is important for your health and your pleasure.

Uncomfortable. Painful. Dry.

Would you describe sex using any of these words? If you do, then lubricants may be your new best friend. In fact, even if these words aren’t what you would use to describe intercourse, lubricants are still your best friend.

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Sexual self-care means understanding your likes, dislikes, and knowing that if those change, it’s ok.

It doesn’t just mean what you like sexually. We experience pleasure in all areas of our life. Illness and other stressors can change many aspects of our lives including how we experience pleasure and what we enjoy and appreciate. It forces us to face these changes so that we can move forward. Mindful self touch, like meditating can settle our mind, and our body. Pleasure mapping solo or partnered can be a non sexual to redefine pleasure. Pleasure mapping can also be used to start to explore pleasure in sexual touch.

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Are we too young to stop having sex?

Q: Can a marriage be good, happy and fulfilled but sexless? Gino (52) and I (48) have been married for 20 years. After our two children were born, sex dwindled, due to the usual pressures of family life. We are still relatively young, but haven't had sex for almost three years because Gino lost interest too. We both agreed this was OK. I was never a very sexual person. Gino usually initiated sex, and I don't miss it. We still have a very good relationship, and kiss and cuddle, and have physical contact. Are we too young to stop having sex?

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7 ways to increase your chance of having an orgasm - tonight!

We are so excited to have the first of Isiah McKimmie’s podcasts shared with the Bliss Community. We love her work and we are grateful that she is allowing us to share her podcast through Bliss. In this podcast Isiah will be answering this question, “I have had orgasms before. Most of the time by myself and sometimes with my partner, but the thing is, I don’t always with him. It’s really frustrating. I don’t really know what it is. Do you have any tips for someone like me?”

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20 Fun Facts about Fun Factory

This was an article originally published by Fun Factory

# 1 In 1996 Dirk Bauer and Michael Pahl, recent university graduates, sat down to design a silicone dildo. This is FUN FACTORY’s origin story. 

#2 Bauer and Pahl wanted to make a visually appealing, body-safe alternative to the hyper-realistic, flesh-tone, chemical-smelling sex toys that made up the market at the time.

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How parents can talk to their children about sexual education.

Q: Lucy (10) and Ben (12) are great kids, and get on well with Ian and I, but puberty is approaching. I want to keep the channels of communication open between us, but I know teenagers often shut their parents out. I would love it if they felt they could talk to us if something concerns them, especially in the area of sexuality, but I feel pretty ignorant and at a loss about modern sex – sexual orientation, porn, STIs, sexting and so on. How can I get better informed, and springboard this kind of conversation?

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5 Naughty Ways to Have More Fun in Bed

A: Great question, thanks for asking. Relationships take work, no matter if you are in the beginning or down the track. The difference is in the beginning we don’t see that the work we put in is effort. Making that effort at any stage doesn’t have to be a drag and is a great thing for your relationship. Inject some imaginative and goofy play into your sex life to increase the fun levels.

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5 Ways To Make Sex More Fun When You're In A Long-term Relationship.

A: Thanks for asking the question. It is not easy to speak up and ask. I also want to tell you that it is very common for couples in long term relationships to feel as though their sex routine has become predictable. Many people want to spice things up in the bedroom but don’t know where to start. They can find suggesting new things intimidating let alone actually doing them. As Bliss’s resident sexologist I am here to help and show you that it is not as hard as you might think to bring fun back into your sex life.

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