Posts tagged communication
He’d like our sex life back, but I feel no desire.

Q Brett and I (early 30s) have been together for 6 years, and have two children (3 and 1). Brett’s a wonderful guy who works hard, is great with the kids, and is loving and supportive of me. He’s been very patient about my lack of interest in sex, but I know he’d like our old sex life back. I love him, but feel no desire. Help.

A You are going through one of life’s most profound transitions. Regardless of age, becoming a parent changes you as fundamentally as adolescence did. Your hormones and your lifestyle have been disrupted. Things will never be just as they were, any more than Brett is likely to rekindle his passion for Spider-Man, nor you, for princesses.

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How to get out of a sex rut + have more playful, loving, satisfying sex

Isiah McKimmie’s podcasts have graciously been shared with the Bliss Community. We love her work and we are grateful that she is allowing us to share her podcast through Bliss. In this podcast Isiah answers the question Am I in a Sex Rut and how do I get out of it?

Does Isiah have any tips? Of course she does! It’s this kind of real sex education that we at Bliss love and we are positive you will too.

If you have asked yourself a similar question then this is a great podcast to listen to. If sex started out fun and exciting (and on a regular basis), but then life happened…

If life got busy, you got tired and if you feel like you are too familiar with each other and there is not mystery or spark anymore. Do feel like things are a little lack-lustre in the bedroom.

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Sexual self care is knowing that there is more to sex than intercourse.

This could be a long one. Do not let your definition of sex be defined by porn or what you see in Hollywood romance movies.

Sex and pleasure are a smorgasbord and you get to choose what works for you. You can even change your mind and/or go back for seconds. Its all the fun, pleasurable, cheeky, exciting stuff you can get up to before orgasm, before intercourse and even before your clothes come off. It is pleasure in whatever form that takes for you.

Once you understand that sex is broader than many people think it opens up a whole new world to explore. Then the trick is to be able to communicate that to your partner(s).

It is safe to assume that most of us a pretty good at communicating in most situations in life. We are taught from a young age how to communicate what we need and want. Then there is sex and we are for the most part not taught about and not all that great at. Research (Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy) tells us that sharing sexual needs and desires with your partner positively improves relationship satisfaction.

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5 tips to surviving Valentine’s Day in a new relationship!

I was asked how to approach Valentine’s day when a client had only just started a new relationship? How big or small do you go? It is easy to say why it can feel like a mine field when such loaded holiday is fast approaching when you are still learning about each other in a new relationship. Here are a few quick tips for navigating the mine field.

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