Posts tagged self care
What Turns You On? The 4 Steps to Discover What You Enjoy Sexually

We are proud to announce that we are sponsoring Isiah McKimmie’s podcast Wholehearted: Love, Sex & Intimacy. The following is the first one and we love it. It is a little surreal hearing an advertisement of your business for the first time but it is also amazing. We are so excited to be working with Isiah.

Isiah loves helping women become sexually empowered, which we are all about! Isiah and the Bliss Team both come across this often, women will say “I don’t know what I like. How do you find out? How do I tell my partner what I like?”

And partners will say “I wish I knew what she really enjoys sexually. I try to ask but she says she doesn’t know. I just want to please her.”

In this podcast Isiah shes tips to help discover epic pleasure:

  • Vital factors of a woman’s turn on

  • Her 4 step formula to discover what you really enjoy

  • Playful ways to explore with yout partner

  • Sexy suggestions from other women.

You can listen to the podcast here.

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Sexual self-care means being mindful during sexual experiences.

Does this sound familiar?

101 things on my to do list - Fatigued and pained - Too busy, Too tired - My scars are ugly - Hurry up or no that is not right.

Who has all this and far more going on in their head?

It’s all that distracts us during intimacy & sexual experiences. I make that distinction on purpose. There is an abundance of pleasure, connection & health benefits to be had in non sexual, consensual touch. Being able to be mindful during those interactions is sexual self care.

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Sexual self care is knowing that there is more to sex than intercourse.

This could be a long one. Do not let your definition of sex be defined by porn or what you see in Hollywood romance movies.

Sex and pleasure are a smorgasbord and you get to choose what works for you. You can even change your mind and/or go back for seconds. Its all the fun, pleasurable, cheeky, exciting stuff you can get up to before orgasm, before intercourse and even before your clothes come off. It is pleasure in whatever form that takes for you.

Once you understand that sex is broader than many people think it opens up a whole new world to explore. Then the trick is to be able to communicate that to your partner(s).

It is safe to assume that most of us a pretty good at communicating in most situations in life. We are taught from a young age how to communicate what we need and want. Then there is sex and we are for the most part not taught about and not all that great at. Research (Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy) tells us that sharing sexual needs and desires with your partner positively improves relationship satisfaction.

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Sexual self care is valuing your pleasure.

Pleasure is the ultimate form of sexual self care or self care in general. Pleasure is an important part of a happy healthy life and a priority in general self care and sexual self care. It encompasses all the points before it and more.

Valuing your pleasure is a part of valuing, accepting and loving yourself. It can be a great way to support your mental health. Having said that it can be hard for many women to stop and take care of themselves first because we are taught to take care of others.

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Sexual self-care means understanding your likes, dislikes, and knowing that if those change, it’s ok.

It doesn’t just mean what you like sexually. We experience pleasure in all areas of our life. Illness and other stressors can change many aspects of our lives including how we experience pleasure and what we enjoy and appreciate. It forces us to face these changes so that we can move forward. Mindful self touch, like meditating can settle our mind, and our body. Pleasure mapping solo or partnered can be a non sexual to redefine pleasure. Pleasure mapping can also be used to start to explore pleasure in sexual touch.

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How parents can talk to their children about sexual education.

Q: Lucy (10) and Ben (12) are great kids, and get on well with Ian and I, but puberty is approaching. I want to keep the channels of communication open between us, but I know teenagers often shut their parents out. I would love it if they felt they could talk to us if something concerns them, especially in the area of sexuality, but I feel pretty ignorant and at a loss about modern sex – sexual orientation, porn, STIs, sexting and so on. How can I get better informed, and springboard this kind of conversation?

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Endometriosis and Sexuality - 13 quick tips

Chronic illness, including endometriosis may impact on your sexuality. For many, being unwell can completely change your sexuality and therefor have an impact on your general health and wellbeing, which can extend into other parts of life. It may have an impact on your body image, self‐esteem, and intimate relationships. For many sex is not an easy topic to discuss and yes even health professionals can find issues relating to sex difficult to discuss. Even if you feel embarrassed or uneasy, it is important that you

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