Posts tagged sex
You always had the power my dear - how to use a wand with your partner.

You always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself - Glinda from The Wizard of Oz.

Hitachi style wands have been best sellers since they were invented in the 70s, wands and other clitoral stimulators are by far the most popular products in our store. We are under no illusion as to why wands are such popular sex toys for women because they deliver fantastic orgasms – power and direct stimulation.

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What is the most effective sex tip you have given?

When people find out I am a sexologist - sexuality educator I get some odd questions. Though the most common question I get is what is your most effective sex tip? It is simple and one of my favourite topics.

Touch, Touch more.

Sounds simple doesn’t it? Yes, but touching more often in your relationship has the power to transform your sex life. If you are thinking about spicing up your sex life, you may be thinking blindfolds and other things inspired by 50 shades and touch is probably not the first things that comes to mind. Most people think they need to do more elaborate stuff but it really can be a simple as starting with touching more.

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What is in a name? 4 other ways to use a G-Spot vibrator

Let’s start with what the G-Spot is? It is an area on the front inside wall of the vagina, it feels a little spongier than the tissues around it and produces strong orgasms and sometimes female ejaculation when stimulated. There there is still some debate about the G-spot and how it works. The G-spot is located one to three inches the front inside wall of the vagina. Inserting a finger and making a "come hither" motion will help you locate it. It is believed to be an internal portion of the clitoris that you can stimulate with this motion.

Most women report that achieving an orgasm from G-spot stimulation is a different type of orgasm than one from clitoral stimulation, it tends to be more. There are vibrators and other sex toys specially designed to stimulate the G-spot and doggy style is known to be a good way to stimulate it

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Sexual self care is knowing it is ok to use lubrication or other aides to improve your comfort and pleasure.

Knowing it is OK to use lubricants. Knowing the importance of and using quality lubricants. Lubricants, vaginal moisturisers and other adult toys can help increase your pleasure and comfort. Using quality lubes, toys or other products is important for your health and your pleasure.

Uncomfortable. Painful. Dry.

Would you describe sex using any of these words? If you do, then lubricants may be your new best friend. In fact, even if these words aren’t what you would use to describe intercourse, lubricants are still your best friend.

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Sexual self-care means being mindful during sexual experiences.

Does this sound familiar?

101 things on my to do list - Fatigued and pained - Too busy, Too tired - My scars are ugly - Hurry up or no that is not right.

Who has all this and far more going on in their head?

It’s all that distracts us during intimacy & sexual experiences. I make that distinction on purpose. There is an abundance of pleasure, connection & health benefits to be had in non sexual, consensual touch. Being able to be mindful during those interactions is sexual self care.

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Sexual self care is knowing that there is more to sex than intercourse.

This could be a long one. Do not let your definition of sex be defined by porn or what you see in Hollywood romance movies.

Sex and pleasure are a smorgasbord and you get to choose what works for you. You can even change your mind and/or go back for seconds. Its all the fun, pleasurable, cheeky, exciting stuff you can get up to before orgasm, before intercourse and even before your clothes come off. It is pleasure in whatever form that takes for you.

Once you understand that sex is broader than many people think it opens up a whole new world to explore. Then the trick is to be able to communicate that to your partner(s).

It is safe to assume that most of us a pretty good at communicating in most situations in life. We are taught from a young age how to communicate what we need and want. Then there is sex and we are for the most part not taught about and not all that great at. Research (Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy) tells us that sharing sexual needs and desires with your partner positively improves relationship satisfaction.

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7 ways to increase your chance of having an orgasm - tonight!

We are so excited to have the first of Isiah McKimmie’s podcasts shared with the Bliss Community. We love her work and we are grateful that she is allowing us to share her podcast through Bliss. In this podcast Isiah will be answering this question, “I have had orgasms before. Most of the time by myself and sometimes with my partner, but the thing is, I don’t always with him. It’s really frustrating. I don’t really know what it is. Do you have any tips for someone like me?”

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Chronic illness takes away the pleasure of sex & intimacy, replacing it with fear & loss.

“I have been tearing myself apart because I can't have a baby anymore, I don't have a job anymore, I can't have sex, I am in pain all the time and tired. There have been times when sex has caused the kind of pain that makes me throw up and that makes me want to crawl out of my body.

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5 Reasons Physical Touch is So Important

Touch is a sense that in today’s busy digital age we are engaging in less and less. This arguably plays a part in the increase in loneliness, mental and emotional health issues of today. Despite the many positives that technology has brought to our lives or innate need for connection has not evolved to the point where touch is no longer needed for our physical and emotional health – no not even robotic sex dolls can replace consensual, pleasurable human touch. Physical touch is vital for our health.

A favourite topic of mine.

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