7 ways to increase your chance of having an orgasm - tonight!

We are so excited to have the first of Isiah McKimmie’s podcasts shared with the Bliss Community. We love her work and we are grateful that she is allowing us to share her podcast through Bliss. In this podcast Isiah will be answering this question, “I have had orgasms before. Most of the time by myself and sometimes with my partner, but the thing is, I don’t always with him. It’s really frustrating. I don’t really know what it is. Do you have any tips for someone like me?”

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Since my marriage ended I miss hugs, cuddles and affectionate contact

Q: My marriage ended eight years ago. I’ve seen a few women since, but nothing developed. Recently, I’ve tried a dating site. I’ve had coffee with a couple of people, but again, nothing clicked. Now in my 50s, I realise I’m fairly content with life as it is, apart from one thing. I’ve always been a very tactile person. I’m not so bothered about sex, but I miss hugs, cuddles and affectionate contact. I enjoy a regular massage, but that’s a commercial, clinical arrangement. Any suggestions?

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20 Fun Facts about Fun Factory

This was an article originally published by Fun Factory

# 1 In 1996 Dirk Bauer and Michael Pahl, recent university graduates, sat down to design a silicone dildo. This is FUN FACTORY’s origin story. 

#2 Bauer and Pahl wanted to make a visually appealing, body-safe alternative to the hyper-realistic, flesh-tone, chemical-smelling sex toys that made up the market at the time.

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How parents can talk to their children about sexual education.

Q: Lucy (10) and Ben (12) are great kids, and get on well with Ian and I, but puberty is approaching. I want to keep the channels of communication open between us, but I know teenagers often shut their parents out. I would love it if they felt they could talk to us if something concerns them, especially in the area of sexuality, but I feel pretty ignorant and at a loss about modern sex – sexual orientation, porn, STIs, sexting and so on. How can I get better informed, and springboard this kind of conversation?

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5 Naughty Ways to Have More Fun in Bed

A: Great question, thanks for asking. Relationships take work, no matter if you are in the beginning or down the track. The difference is in the beginning we don’t see that the work we put in is effort. Making that effort at any stage doesn’t have to be a drag and is a great thing for your relationship. Inject some imaginative and goofy play into your sex life to increase the fun levels.

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My new partner has some habits I find intensely irritating

Q: I’m 55, and have started seeing a woman. We are compatible on most levels, and I see the potential for a long-term relationship. We’re from different cultural backgrounds, which we both find appealing. However, she has some eating habits I find intensely irritating – slurping her food, eating quickly and urgently, and talking with her mouth full. I’m worried about the impression she’ll make on my family and friends. I suffer from a degree of misophonia, and am not able to tolerate some sounds. I don’t want this to be a deal-breaker. What can I do?

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5 Ways To Make Sex More Fun When You're In A Long-term Relationship.

A: Thanks for asking the question. It is not easy to speak up and ask. I also want to tell you that it is very common for couples in long term relationships to feel as though their sex routine has become predictable. Many people want to spice things up in the bedroom but don’t know where to start. They can find suggesting new things intimidating let alone actually doing them. As Bliss’s resident sexologist I am here to help and show you that it is not as hard as you might think to bring fun back into your sex life.

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Sex without pain is a basic human right!

Sex is meant to be about pleasure and not pain, right? The American survey, the ‘National Survey of Sexual Health and Behaviour’ described as the ‘the largest national sex survey ever published’, found that one in three American women experienced some pain the last time they had sex. 75 percent of women have experienced pain during sex at some point in their lives, according to the American College of Gynecologists and Obstetricians. Painful sex happens for a whole range of reasons, including endometriosis, adenomyosis, pelvic floor issues and the list goes on.  

Does this concern anyone else? It is one of the reasons we do what we do. The wall of silence around women’s sexual wellness, pleasure and quality of life needs to be taken down. 

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What to do if you love a position but it hurts.

Whether it is doggy style or you on top, each to their own. I think we can all agree it sucks when something you and your partner enjoyed is disrupted when your favourite position hurts. It is actually very common for women to experience discomfort or pain during sexual intercourse. It is also very common that we try to ignore it, by just doing it without complaining or we avoid sex. Neither does you or your partner any favours.

If working out ways to get into your favourite positions and getting back into having sex with your partner appeals to you then keep reading.  

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7 reasons you will love toys from the award winning Fun Factory.

Fun Factory sex toys are all made, packaged and shipped from Germany, the factory is clean and safe and supports their workers.All undergo quality assurance tests to ensure they meet high quality standards. Europe sex toy industry is regulated unlike the rest of the World, but Germany in particular, is regulated moreso than other European countries.The German government regulates their toys, tests materials and conditions and functions to ensure all materials comply with EU standards for safety, health and environmental impact.Because Fun Factory design, manufacture, test and comply with all requirements all under one roof, they have one of the smallest manufacturing carbon footprints in the World. They are one of the most ecofriendly adult manufacturers in the world and they have strict recycling policies to save 40 tons of resources a year.  

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How will I find a partner if I don't enjoy sex?

Never forget that a woman’s pleasure is as important as a man’s. He can be as ready to go as soon as he has an erection. Women need more time. During arousal, the blood vessels become engorged, and the woman gets an internal erection. The body releases natural lubricants, and the vaginal canal lengthens. Vigorous intercourse when you are not aroused can easily become painful. Enduring painful sex acts like aversion therapy

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The Bliss Guide to Menopause.

Sexual problems are far more common across the life span for those of us with vulva’s and vagina’s then most people realise. There are times through our life that this is more likely to occur and peri menopause is one of those times. Hormone changes may contribute to the likelihood that you will experience sexual issues, but it is important that we are not only blaming hormones, sex and intimacy is far more complicated than that. It is important that the whole person is taken into account including relationship issues, how you feel about yourself, mental and emotional health, physical health, medications, the messages you hold about sex as well as what menopause means as a woman.

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5 ways to stop Motherhood Ruining Your Sex Life - reconnect with yourself & your pleasure.

Motherhood can feel like a marathon, our energy going into our children, work, house, friends, family, portraying the perfect life to fill our social media. Our lives and our children’s lives are more connected and scheduled than ever before. Some would argue that motherhood has been taken to a higher energy, time and focus level than ever before. This makes sense when we are caring for our newborns but not as our children grow. If our energy is totally devoted to our children, house, and work what is left for us and for our sexual/intimate lives? Why have we put our sex lives on hold as if it is not an important part of our life or our relationship?

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I have a medical condition that makes sex painful

Q: I am a 32-year-old woman. For almost a year I’ve been receiving treatment for a medical condition that can make penetrative sex painful. This makes it difficult for me to relax, and enjoy, sexual intercourse. Most painful is deep penetration, so I am always tense and concerned that my partner might get carried away. This is putting a strain on my relationship. Is there anything I can do to overcome this depressing situation?

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5 tips for managing fatigue when living with endometriosis.

Many women living with endometriosis experience fatigue. For some women with endometriosis, fatigue can be one of the more debilitating symptoms even to the point of effects work and relationships. Disease activity, pain levels, medications, age, poor mental and/or physical health, and the absence of sufficient social support are related to fatigue. You should always discuss your fatigue with your doctor to rule out any treatable causes of fatigue such as anemia, hormonal issues or another pathology.

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How to handle the laws of emotion.

Q: Sam and I have always worked on our relationship, reading books, and attending workshops and seminars. We've resolved a range of problems over the years, but there is one destructive pattern that seems impossible to change. Sometimes, something is said or done that triggers an extreme reaction in one, or both of us. The anger, fear, and blame expressed is so intense you'd think we hated each other. What's going on?

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We should be happy together, but we're not.

Q: Ruth and I are coming up for our 10th wedding anniversary. We have two great kids (8 and 5), we both work, have a nice home, and should be happy together, but we’re not. We went through some tough times with health issues, a period of unemployment, and my mother’s transition into a nursing home, and, now things are calmer, we can barely talk to one another without it turning into a row. Can we get back on track, or is divorce inevitable?

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