Q: “I have a medical condition that makes it difficult for me to hold things for a long time or use my hands for a long time. I’ve never had an orgasm, well I don’t think I have but I would love to have one. Masturbation makes my hands tired and sore, and I can’t do it for long. A couple of minutes using my hands to masturbate is never long enough to lead to an orgasm. What would you suggest for hands-free masturbation?
A: It is so fantastic that you don’t want to let your medical condition stop you from exploring your pleasure. How exciting that you are open to the idea of finding what works for you! There are so many ways to masturbate handsfree and less taxing on your body. Here are some ideas for you;
1. Use a showerhead.
2. If you have a spa, the jets can be useful.
3. Test out a new type of sex toy.
A vibrator can do the majority of the work for you. If you use it on its own you do still need to hold it in place. Vibrations do wonderful things for pleasure and achieving and orgasm but they can also be transferred the other way into your hands. Not a deal-breaker but something to keep in mind if vibrations are an issue for your hands (Ava by Downunder may be a good vibrator to choose if you do, easy to hold with minimal vibrations being transferred into your hands or you could try a Womanizer product or a Lelo Sona, neither uses vibrations at all and are very effective).
In general, bigger, sturdier vibrators like the Lelo Smart Wand, Le Wand Petite or Medisil wands might be easier to be kept in position. They can also be used with pieces of Liberator furniture/supports like BonBon or the Humphery Pillow. There are a number of people I have worked with in the past that have loved one of these combinations but each person’s situation is unique.
4. Try combining your sex toy of choice with a piece of Liberator furniture for support or a total handsfree experience.
The Liberator furniture/supports offer a means to hold that vibrator handsfree. They can also support your body and allow you to use your body weight against the vibrator without having to use your hands. You may even be able to clench it between your thighs to hold it in place. If the furniture is not for you can try straddling the vibrator, resting your weight on it, instead of using your hands. Pillows can be used to prop you up and find the right position.
5. Use a hands-free vibrator
The We-Vibe Moxie is a very popular toy, which fits inside of your underwear, and operates via Bluetooth, using a remote or an app on your phone. Eva 2 by Dame Products is a small hands-free vibrator that has little arms that tuck into the labial lips to hold it there and stimulates the clitoris. These are both provide purely external stimulation.
If you would like a toy that provides internal stimulation and you are able to hold it in place you could check out the Bi Stronic Fusion by Fun Factory, which provides both internal and clitoral stimulation. This is a thruster, so it thrusts inside of you while providing clitoral stimulation.
Mia Max is also a thruster and you can purchase attachments that will hold it for you so it is totally hands-free. A minimum you will just need a flat surface to secure the holder.
6. Grind away.
Needs no toys only something for you to grind against. Put something soft between your legs and rock your hips back and forth against it. Most who use this technique like a pillow or blanket (you may choose something firmer, it is entirely up to you). You can do this on your back or on your stomach.
Whatever tickles your fancy also remember to use a quality lubricant.