One of the most important points that we don’t get taught is that our libido/sex drive, our sexual preferences, and our sexual interests change over time and through the different phases of our life. This is normal.
Understanding this point is one of the most important things to understand for our solo and partnered sexual experiences in life. Coupled with this it is also important to be connected to what is happening with your body and embrace (not ignore) our desires as they change. The following are three quick idea on how you can do this;
1. Read sex books or listen to erotica that interests you.
As with any book or podcast you should choose sex books or audio that interests you. It is fun and an amazing way to explore different aspects of sexuality in a safe discreet way. It is can also be a great step toward increasing your confidence and allow you to share your preferences with your partner throughout your relationship.
2. Solo Pleasure
Solo Pleasure or masturbation is healthy for you. This fact is one we shout from the rooftops on every platform we have. Masturbation relieves tension, helps relieve menstrual cramps or general pain, helps you sleep, improved blood flow and tissue health, and has been linked to improve mood. “Masturbation is a primary form of sexual expression… masturbation is the ongoing love affair that each of us has with ourselves throughout our lifetime” — Betty Dodson, Sex for One. May is masturbation month but there is no reason AT ALL why you can’t start today.
3. Variety is the spice of life
Variety truly is the spice of life so why not try introducing novelty into your life and relationship. It is no secret that our minds and bodies have a positive biological response when we learn new things, sex and pleasure are no different. Whether you are single or partnered adding some variety can help your sexual interactions feel more connected and satisfying. You can try a new activity solo or partnered (sexual and non-sexual). You could try changing the vibe in your room with candles or fresh scents and you can also to exploring new toys or other erotic play.
We will say this again - one of the most important points that we don’t get taught is that our libido/sex drive, our sexual preferences, and our sexual interests change over time and through the different phases of our life. This is normal.
It doesn’t need to be complicated but it does take a conscious effort to make it a priority in your life.
Disclaimer: The information contained in this document should be read as general in nature and is only to provide and overview of the subject matter. Please read product packaging carefully and follow all instructions. Seek advice specific to your situation from your medical professional or mental health professional. Safe - Sane - Consensual