We were asked why one of the free gifts with purchases over $200 is a blindfold? It is simple blindfolds can increase your sexual pleasure and are often overlooked when people are purchasing sex toys in the hope of improving their sex life, especially for those with vulvas.
So why are they more effective for those with vulvas? One reason is because of the differences between female and male erotic arousal. We experience pleasure with all out 5 senses but for those with a penis sight is the biggest turn on for most while for those with vulvas it is touch for most. So visual deprivation for those with vulvas shifts their focus to the other senses including touch and they experience that sensation more intensely. The sight of their arousal can be a huge turn on for their partner.
Something as simple as a blindfold can be new and exciting which increases the production of dopamine in the brain, a neurotransmitter which helps us to feel pleasure. I hear you saying don’t most people close their eyes while they are kissing and having sex? Yes, they do but there is a large difference between voluntarily closing your eyes and having your sense deprived by using a blindfold. It can feel kinky, it can bring a feeling of discipline and control without fully stepping into a BDSM type of sexual play. Taking small steps into a more playful and non-threatening style of play can be comfortable by very arousing for couples.
It is simple
Blindfolds are a safe, non-threatening, they are small and easy to take when you travel – really they are just a sleep mask if anyone asks. Sure you can get edgier blindfold, you can get a beautiful purpose made blindfold or you can in fact use a sleep mask or even a tie. It is a simple way to spice up your sex life.
Heighten other senses
Visual deprivation for those can shift focus to the other senses including touch, hearing, taste and smell which are experienced more intensely. Try feeding your partner tiny bits of something sweet that they love. Try dripping hot wax on them from a scented massage candle then massaging them. The massage candle stimulates two out of the four remaining senses, touch and smell.
If you are one that finds it hard to shut of your brain during sex and the to do list loop never stops a blindfold could be your best friend. With a blindfold your sense of touch is heightened through sight deprivation, so it is a way to bring you into more mindful sex. You can increase this by combining the blindfold with everything from varying types of touch (massage, stroking with a feather or silk scarf), using a sex toy (on the blindfolded person), to temperature play (ice cube or drizzling champagne followed by the warmth of your tongue). Not only does a blindfold have the ability to shift your focus but the idea of not knowing what is next can be very arousing for some. It is ok if being completely unaware of what is next is not really your thing you could try getting your partner to whisper in your ear what they are going to do but not when. This can also be very arousing but still gives you the opportunity to let them know if something is not right for you.
Don’t forget the sex toy
Although a blindfold can be a great step to increasing arousal including something as simple as a bullet vibrator on the penis or clitoris or other erogenous zones will leave your partner wondering what is next in the most pleasurable way.
Don’t be surprised if you once you try a blindfold if you want to try things like cuffs or rope ties to explore further. They are all ways of increasing arousal for those that find them interesting.
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