Yes it is possible to build an intimate relationship without sex.
Romantic and sexual relationships often are paired with sexual intimacy. However, it is possible to build intimacy without sexual intercourse. Believe it or not we all have different definitions of sex, and it is dependent on the individual. For this reason, the definition of sex that we will use in this article is as any touch that is meant to elicit a sexual response, especially genital stimulation.
People abstain from sex for different reasons. They could be mental, medical or religious reasons. Even if you are abstaining from sex, you may still desire affection and to show affection to your partner. This article will give you a few things you can try to build intimacy in your relationship without sex.
Intimacy without Sex.
When you are trying to think of ways to be intimate without sex you may find it tricky but the truth is there are a whole range of things that we do regularly that build intimacy we just don’t always associate them with the idea of intimacy.
Try writing a list of the things you enjoy doing together especially things that bring you closer together emotionally. Think;
- Outdoor activities like walking, hiking, or urban exploring.
- To having intellectually stimulating conversations over drinks or coffee.
- It can also include shared hobbies.
- New activities that you want to try.
- Incorporating different forms of physical touch into these activities.
- Holding hands
- Caressing arms/hands.
- Gentle kisses on the forehead, top of the head, or extremities.
Physical Touch that is not necessarily sexual.
Massage – Undivided attention is incredibly intimate. Giving your partner or your partner giving you their undivided attention in pretty much every way, body, mind and hands.
- Set the scene.
- Dim the lights, make your surroundings comfortable, and play gentle music.
- Maybe light soothing-smelling candles or an oil diffuser.
- Maybe include wine, tea, or water to get into the mood.
- Speak in soothing tones.
- Cuddle before or after your massage.
Body Painting – You don’t have to be an artist to do this. It is a fun one for both partners and can be great if one partner is big on physical touch, but the other isn’t.
- Your partners back is the canvas.
- Get them to lay down with their back exposed.
- Then you paint using body-safe non-toxic paints.
- Always be gentle and respectful you your partners body.
- Variation could be painting your partner on canvas, they could be nude or partially nude or fully clothed however they are comfortable. Regardless it is a nice way to appreciate and cherish your partner.
- Another variation could be finger painting together. Getting messy together, it is a very freeing experience.
Dance - This is a particular favourite in our office. You don’t need a crowd, a dance floor, and a DJ to dance. You can dance in your kitchen, living room (or car) and a small speaker or your phone will do.
- Try slow dancing with your partner.
- Do what works for you.
- Try draping your arms around each other and lean your forehead on their shoulder or chest.
- Play your favourite songs.
- If slow dancing isn’t the mood try rocking out together.
- Car dancing is still intimate even if you can’t touch, you can still laugh together and connect in the moment.
If you want more advice on sexual intimacy, communication, and improving your sex life, you can book a education consultation with Jodie West. Sex education is for everyone and you are never too old to learn more about how to make the most of your pleasure and your relationship.