*Cue lengthy prologue about how confusing it is to choose a sex toy*
When you discreetly search online for sex toys (because societal constructs still forbid discussing sexual pleasure and health freely), you may feel overwhelmed...
Let’s skip the B.S. and get right into why YOU came looking for an ultimate guide to sex toys. You know what a dildo is, you may have used vibrators before. So why do YOU need a guide about sex toys?
There are four reasons for you to be googling up sex toys:
- You want to explore and genuinely don’t know where to begin.
- You need validation about what you are already doing with the toys.
- You have questions (is it healthy, am I doing it right, what else can I use, etc).
- Other (Sorry, your mind is a labyrinth and I can’t read it)
For all you, this article will act as a diving board. You can use it to jump into the huge pool of sex toys we have stocked for you, armed with the knowledge of:
- What kind of sex you want the toy for
- What the best toy for that purpose is
- What kind of material would suit you
And because I am an organisation freak, I have categorised the sex toys first according to the type of sex you can use it with and then the materials they are made of. Here is the table of contents:
Type of Sex:
Role Play and Anticipation
Kegels and Eggs
- Stainless steel
Now let’s walk calmly onto this fine diving board and get started on the ultimate guide to sex toys!Type of Sex
Everyone has their favourite part in the whole process of having sex– some people’s preference might surprise you.
Whatever your favourite part is, there is a sex toy out there that can enhance your experience. That being said, let’s go in the general order of a sexual encounter:
Role Play and Anticipation
An anonymous sex genius I just made up once said:
“ ‘Tis not the actual act of coitus that is the most arousing experience in a sexual encounter, but what comes before it.”
She was emphasising something we all need more in our lives– foreplay. It sets the tone of the sex you (hopefully) will be having. It is electrifying, thrilling and yes, arousing.
But the question is– can it be more?
(Answer: Heck yeah!)
BDSM refers to power play during sex. You can do it without toys of course, but if you want to really get into it there are things you can use– blindfolds, handcuffs, collars, rope and more. How you use them is only limited by your imagination.
Sometimes it is the anticipation before sex that can lead to mind-blowing, gut-rattling climaxes. Kegels and eggs are made to build said anticipation. While most of them are the usual insert-and-leave style, there are also new Bluetooth/remote-controlled versions to add an extra element of risque.
A surprising array of products falls into this category– sex furniture, the Ohnut, pillows and more. While these may not sound like the ‘sexiest’ of sex toys, they are very useful and practical (not to mention pleasurable) in bed.
Ah, the head-scratcher...
Or is it?
Clitoral stimulation is the sure-shot hit with most women. And it does not have to be as confusing or difficult as you think. You can use several different stimulating products to pleasure yourself or your partner.
Viewed as somewhat of a staple in the sex toy arsenal, vibrators are discrete, portable and very versatile. A special mention has to be given to the new and infamous Rabbit vibrators which allow you to enjoy both penetration and clitoral stimulation at the same time.
Not to be confused with vibrators, clitoral stimulators are small devices that massage the external clitoris to achieve orgasm. If your clitoris is your favourite pleasure points then you need to get a clitoris stimulator. Orgasms don’t get any more toe-curling than that.
When the above two devices get too intense or you would like a change of pace, turn to massagers. While massage wands are becoming increasingly popular, you might like a smaller one that fits into the palm of your hand.
Penetration is one of those pleasurable activities that almost everybody enjoys. To meet this high demand, we have a wide range of sex toys to fulfil every penetration-related fantasy you have had.
Here are the basics.
If you don’t know what a dildo is, you’re probably too young to be on this page. I’ll give you a minute to click out of it.
Anyways, dildos come in possibly the most diverse range of all sex toys. Big, small, thick, long, realistic, unrealistic, g-spot focussed or designed for sharing– you will never run out of options.
Some dildos Bliss For Women sells can be attached to a harness. You can also buy a pre-attached one. But that is not all a harness does. Some use it for full-blown Christian Grey ceiling suspenders while some are merely decorative. Either way, it adds another layer of spice to your sex life.
Keeping in mind that size does not matter, penis sleeves help increase the length or width of the penis. More often than not, sleeves are used by people with sexual health issues like erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.
We have been talking about women’s pleasure a lot (the name is, after all, Bliss For Women). But that does not mean the male pleasure will go unaddressed. Masturbators for men come in the shape of strokers, teasers, ones with flip holes, ones shaped like eggs– you name it.
Don’t you love it when one toy satisfies all partners? Cock rings can help your erection become bigger (slightly), get harder and last longer. And lucky for the men reading this, cock rings also increase sensation– A.K.A. that orgasm is going to be mind-shattering regardless of whether you decide to go solo or with your partner.
The taboo around anal sex is finally lifting and that means MORE TOYS for us!
Anal sex is an exciting foray into non-traditional eroticism. Whether you are looking to set alight old flames, revive the passion in your relationship(s) or simply want to try something new, anal is the way to go.
Surprisingly enough, this “taboo” sex practice also has many health benefits– prevention of erectile dysfunction, prostatitis and painful ejaculation.
(Also, you will have the most intense, hair-curling orgasms.)
Aside from conventional penetration, there are many more ways you can... *trying to think of a PG way to say this*... approach anal sex. *Whew!*
And toys are a big part of it: butt plugs, massagers, wands and let’s not forget the lubricant. You have much to explore.
Type of Material
There is no end to human innovation (or desire). Today there are thousands upon thousands of sex toy options you can choose from. And they all come in different materials– some good, some bad.
I have listed some of the most common materials used for making sex toys. I will walk you through the pros and cons of each.
Or…. you could just look for a Bliss for Women product. Not only is our CEO a sexologist, but we also have a no-phallus policy to use only body-safe materials. Happy shopping!
Now for the sceptics and nerd who are still here, let’s move on to the list.
Silicone is the most common material used because it is super-safe, skin-like and easy to clean. But don’t make the mistake of thinking all silicone is good silicone. Look for high-quality, medical-grade silicone wherever possible. Also, you might want to go easy on temperature play with this one.
A big thumbs-down to whoever decided to make rubber and latex sex toys. And the reason for that is simple: allergies. An astonishing number of people have latex allergies and issues with the chemicals used during rubber production. Unless you are immune to these, I would advise against buying rubber or latex sex toys.
Because of how skin-like and soft it is, jelly sex toys have become popular. A bonus is that you barely have to apply lube while using them. However, jelly sex toys have a very short life-span meaning they are not a great investment. You should generally beware of any odours or unusual colours on the toy and always clean it well to avoid infection.
This is my all-time favourite material. In my opinion, nothing beats a glass dildo. Not only do they look like works of art, but they are also 100% body-safe, exceedingly easy to clean and perfect for almost any type of sexual adventure.
- Stainless steel
Not only is it great for temperature play, but stainless steel is also super-easy to clean and looks very sleek. Some might say that they are a bit heavy to carry around but you can always take one of the smaller travel toys we stock instead.
While plastic is a good cheap option, it uses many chemicals which might irritate the sensitive skin in the genital area. Sometimes it also has a weird new car smell (which I love in cars, but not so much near my coochie). Just look for quality controls or guarantees wherever you can and stay away from cheap sex toys (no matter the temptation).
While this has gone out of fashion years ago, I thought it would make a nice addition to the list. Some stores still sell them, but don’t worry they are made so you don’t get any splinters. As they are all-natural, most people can use them without fear of allergens. Besides, they happen to be mighty good-looking.
Surprised at this one? Don’t be.
Crystals have been used for centuries to heal, enhance and yes, pleasure. They also look insanely beautiful (I was tempted to put them on the mantelpiece). However, crystals are made of many minerals so it is always good to check if you have any allergies before buying them.
Whew, that was a very informative session about sex toys.
Don’t worry I don’t expect you to remember everything we talked about. You can simply bookmark this blog or add it to your reading list to check when you are next shopping for sex toys.
I hope you enjoyed this ultimate guide to sex toys and discovered some new ways to spice up your sex life.
Now go shopping with your new-found knowledge! And don’t forget to buy lube on your way out!