Q: I feel a bit weird asking this because you are from a women’s website but I like the way you answer questions so I thought I would give it a shot. What the F*@k is the P-Spot? Why do I want to find it? Can I get to it without sticking anything in my butt?
A: Thanks for your question and I am glad that you feel comfortable enough to ask.
In short, the P-Spot is the penis owners version of a G-Spot. It sits 2.5cm to 5cms just inside the anus. It is the size of a walnut and feels like a small, flattened plum. It is where the body stores semen so when it is stimulated to orgasm it can give a physical and emotional release as well as serve to cleanse the prostate helping to protect against prostate cancer.
How do you find the P-Spot?
I suggest that you explore on your own first. Have some quality lubricant handy because the anus does not self-lubricate so you will need some. Lie on your front and lubricate the anus. Start by massaging around the perineum gently encircling the anus until you feel it relax – slowly push your index finger inside. Take it slow because the anus with tighten but if you stay there for a second or two and let your body relax again you will be able to push your finger further inside and push downwards (belly button side of your body) to find the prostate gland.
Experiment with different movements try a little jiggle, some circles, try tapping and stroking. Mixing up the movements will mean that the nerve endings stay sensitive to the stimulation. As you stimulate the prostate and your arousal increases the prostate will engorge, at this point you can deepen the pressure or use a P-Spot toy to stimulate it more. Continue exploring and you are likely to feel an orgasm build.
I understand that play associated with the anus can be confronting for some people. I can assure you that anal play is very pleasurable for many people of all sexual orientations. If faeces is a concern rest assured that it is stored higher in the rectum. If you want to do a bit of extra preparation you can have a relaxing hot bath and try an anal douche, it can enhance the experience. Gloves are also an option.
Something a little extra.
If you would like to extend your exploration of prostate stimulation you can try some prostate sex toys. There are some well-designed ones on the market in a variety of price ranges. You could start with Men X Index by Rocks Off, Men-X Falex by Rocks Off, O Boy by Rocks Off or Rocks Off Naughty Boy 7 Speed by Rocks Off. We have plenty of other brands with this style of toy in store.
If you are going to explore the P-Spot with a partner agree to give and ask for feedback throughout the experience. Encourage them to ask for feedback and do your best to let them know how you are feeling.
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