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A Beginner’s Guide to Pegging

A Beginner’s Guide to Pegging

Pegging aka strap-on anal play. Pegging is when a vulva-haver wears a harness with a dildo/vibrator and anally penetrates a penis-haver. Put in an even more inclusive way it is when anyone wears a strap-on and anally penetrates anyone else. Although the term was coined for heterosexual couples to be able to describe anal sex when the man was the receiver, people of any gender and sexual orientation can do and enjoy pegging, she says.

How does Pegging feel for the receiver?

Anal play can feel good for every bod because the anus has a sensitive ring of nerves around the opening. For those of us with a penis anal penetration can also massage the prostate (P-Spot or male G-Spot).

P-Spot is the erogenous zone located about two inches inside the rectum towards the belly that’s made of nerve-dense muscle tissue. Stimulating the P-Spot alone can be enough for some to have a prostate orgasm (these do not always equal ejaculation but can still be a whole body experience). Stimulation of this P-Spot and the penis at the same time (Journal of Clinical Anatomy) can make orgasms “exceptionally pleasurable.” 

The power switch and the action of this form of stimulation can elicit strong physical and for some emotional/mental response. If we think about it in a heterosexual couple’s relationship pegging flips the script which can be incredibly hot and build equality in the bedroom. Vulnerability can come into play because anal sex has been historically stigmatized as a “gay thing”. This can mean that anal penetration can be hard for some heterosexual men to request. It is important to note that pegging is about the potential for pleasure and not sexual orientation. Being vulnerable in the bedroom can boost intimacy and trust between a couple.

What about the harness wearer?

It can feel great for you to. How and where you position the dildo is a personal thing, but you are looking for the position that gives you the most control. Harnesses usually position the dildo so that when you thrust the dildo presses against your pubic mound or clitoris. 

Some harnesses have a pocket in the front where you can pop a bullet vibrator for clitoral stimulation. Some harnesses can be fitted with a dildo or vibrator that can be inserted in the vaginal while you play. Or you can have a combination of all of it and remotes are even an option. So much control!

How do we start?

Before you and your partner experiment with pegging, you need to talk about it all. You need to cover of on how you see the encounter playing out, positions you are interested in, what your boundaries are and if there is anything that worries you or that is important for you to share. It may be a conversation you have more than once in the lead up to pegging for the first or 50th time.

Then it is time to go shopping. There are a variety of harnesses on the market, look for something that is adjustable and looks comfortable like The Royal Harness range by Calexotics. To start your pegging experimentation start with a simple silicone dildo like Magnum by Fun Factory and Her Royal Harness Dildo range. Start small is the best tip we can give. This will help your partner’s body create a pleasurable memory around anal play, then increase in size as desired – You can have more than one smaller size dildo available when you start.

Lubricant is VERY important. The rectum is not self-lubricating. Water-based like Sassy by Sliquid is the way to go because your dildo will be silicone. Water-based is silicone friendly.

Are you nervous about poop? You can invest in an enema douche bulb. This is a personal preference.

A towel or blanket you can wash is always useful. Lube gets everywhere and it is not very sexy when you are more worried about your sheets than your play.

 

Go slow, lots of foreplay, use plenty of lube. Keep talking and checking in with each other. Help your partner adjust to the idea of the sensation of anal stimulation try using your tongue, a finger, or a smaller plug. When you’re both ready, a position like doggy style - a position that gives you both some control. If eye contact is important to you both then missionary may be for you.

Oh! and LUBE, LUBE, LUBE.

Top Tip. If it ever feels like you’re fitting a square peg into a small hole the best thing to do is communicate with your partner, pause, breathe, add more lube, and try again. If it is not working then stop, it is ok to stop and move on to another form of play.

Ready to take it further?

You have decided that pegging is fun. You are both comfortable with this form of play you can experiment with a girthier or longer dildos. You could also try incorporating a or vibrating cock ring. You can also try positions that allow deeper penetration like spooning.

Health Considerations

While pegging isn’t a high-risk health activity, there are some health considerations to be aware of.

Sexually Transmitted Infections - If you share toys without cleaning them in between or changing condoms, you can transmit a number of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including chlamydia, syphilis, herpes, and HIV. Best to be safe, wash your toys in between uses and partners.

Bacteria – Our rectums contain a bunch of bacteria which is not something that should shared between partners. Especially not shared into your vagina you open yourself up to the risk of yeast infection or UTI.

Last but not least.

If both you and your partner are interested in pegging it can be a fantastic world of fun to explore. It is important to make sure your partner actually wants it, enthusiastic consent is very important with this and any sex act. Make sure that you’re both on the same page. Communication, consent and being on the same page are important because if not done correctly, pegging can hurt and the idea of exploring something like pegging is pleasure not pain.