Does your bedroom make you want to be intimate with your partner? Or does it contribute to the stress going on in life? The holidays can be a great time to take on a makeover project.
I bet you didn’t even realize that your how your bedroom makes you feel can impact your sex life. Think about different hotel rooms you have stayed in, I bet you can think of some prime examples the power a room can have on your sex life.
Have you ever stayed in a hotel with tacky art on the walls, harsh lighting, and scratchy bedsheets? Did it inspire intimacy? Did it make you feel sexy? Or did you want to get the stayover and done with?
Or have you ever stayed in a room that the second you walked into that room, you felt relaxed? With a soothing color scheme, soft mood lighting and soft fresh linen on a comfy luxurious feeling bed? Did it feel like a sexy room and inspired lots of fun intimate play.
Does remembering those rooms demonstrate how important it is to have a bedroom that inspires and welcomes intimacy with your partner!
It is easy to freshen up your bedroom with the goal of improving your sex life. Here are four tips;
Do an honest evaluation
Stop and have a good look at your bedroom with your partner. Ask each other, Is this a space that makes us feel good? Is this a space we want to be intimate in?
Make a list of things about the room that makes you feel good and inspires intimacy.
Make a list of things about the room that feels cluttered, stressful or that you feel get in the way of being intimate?
Mood lighting or candlelight a good to set the mood.
Laundry on the floor or other clutter always ends up distracting you. Not so great for inspiring sex!
What is your focus?
Take some time to think about your version of an ideal bedroom. It is something you should do individually and talk through together to come up with just one word to describe it, which word would you pick?
Relaxing? Energizing? Sensual? Private? Cozy? Minimal? Playful? Serene?
Choosing a word to have as a focus
Having just one word to focus on can really help you decide how to focus your efforts on the remaining steps!
Next, come up with some specific ways that you can remove the distractions from your bedroom, add more sensuality, and incorporate your focus word.
With your partner, start by brainstorming a list of every single idea that comes to mind, no matter how big or small.
Here are a few ideas to get you started:
- Invest in high-quality linens.
- Repaint the walls.
- Buy scented candles or an essential oil diffuser.
- Install a colored lightbulb or a dimmer, so you can adjust the lighting in your bedroom.
- Buy a speaker to play music or white noise.
- Move clutter out of sight.
- Put a lock on the door.
- Hang some art.
Work out the favorite items from the list, pick ones that you think will give you the most bang for your buck. Somewhere between 2-4 ideas is a good starting place.
From those 2-4 ideas make a game plan for how you are going to take action. You can split the actions up or you can divide and conquer. Get your partner to hang some art while you make some room in your bedside table drawer to store your fave sex toys and make them easily accessible.
These few actions can be a kickstart to other changes that can make your bedroom pure bliss. Give this bedroom makeover a shot and let us know how it goes! You may be surprised what a bit of thought and effort towards your environment can do for your sex life!