Sexting is a form of digital foreplay.
Sexting may seem intimidating or overwhelming to some, but it’s actually just flirting and texting in a new context! In the current climate of physical distancing, it also has the added bonus of keeping you connected with those you are intimate with when you can’t be together.
Sexting is a form of digital foreplay, can be a great distraction from a busy day and help get us in the mood for sex. It is a fantastic skill whether you are locked down with someone or you are in a long-distance relationship. Which face it in the time of COVID-19 they could be just a couple of blocks away and but like a traditional long-distance relationship you may not seem them for a while.
Sexting in the time of COVID-19 keeps us safe but also allows us to explore fantasy, stay connected with partners, open up to them in a safe way, knowing that we can explore and enjoy fantasy without having to do it in reality. Examples I hear you ask, well sexting about a threesome and enjoying exploring that fantasy with your partner doesn’t actually mean you have to do it. You can just enjoy being turned on by the fantasy.
It can really be eye-opening to explore fantasies in the way, it a fantastic way to pass the time and to fuel the fire for a great masturbation session or for a super sexy reunion once the world gets back to some sense of normality.
Sexting can be romantic, cheeky, and downright dirty. You can be firmly in one camp or you can mix and match there is no right or wrong. You might be feeling a bit cheeky one day and then go full of dirty the next. The general rule the more adjectives you use the dirtier the sexting. Need a refresher on your high school English, an adjective is a word naming an attribute of a noun, such as sweet, red, or technical.
Here are some examples, if you are;
Romantic: I want to kiss your soft lips.
Cheeky: I want to kiss your soft lips while my fingers sneak into you pants.
Dirty: I want to kiss your soft delicious lips while my fingers sneak into you pants so I can feel how wet you are.
- Reference a moment with the person you’re sexting – my favorite shirt smells like you; I remember how good your hands feel when you explore my body.
- Tease them – I am wearing those red lace pants you like; I am hoping into a hot soapy bath thinking about you.
- Play a game – a fun game to play that also helps you explore fantasies is ‘would you let me’, for example, “would you let me blindfold you?”, “would you let me eat off your naked body?”. Who knows you may really enjoy the answer you get and it can open up a whole new conversation that allows you both to share and build sexy details (it is also ok for someone to say no that doesn’t interest me then you let them ask you one). If it interests you both you can also exchange pictures as the sexting conversation progresses.
Technology is also available to help take sexting to the next level. For example, We-Vibe recently updated the We-Connect app to you can video chat and it is full screen. So during your physical distancing, you can start with basic sexting and when you are ready to progress to taking it to the next level not only with video chat but also allow you or your partner to control one of the We-Vibe sex toys from your smartphone – next level is cybersex.
IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER:
Consent is still important in sexting.
Sexting should be fun and it is OK to laugh or feel silly.
Take your time, don’t rush to finish too quickly. Sexting is great for building anticipation and when you have plenty of time to kill there is no reason to rush.
Exploring fantasies is one thing but introducing a kink you usually keep close when you are not sure how it will be received in a sexting session could turn things awkward. Getting sexy with a screen in between you can lower inhibitions and well judgment can go the way of a keyboard warrior without much thought so take it slow, keep consent in mind and your judgment clear. You can always bring up new kinks when you can be in a physical space with the person and can read body language and other cues.
Remember to clean your phone (manufacturers including Apple and Samsung have updated ways to clean your phone with reference to COVID-19) and any toys you may use. Soap and water in conjunction with toy cleaners are more important than ever.
Enjoy some fun during physical distancing measures, relieve some stress, stay connected, stay safe and stay home.