Which Lube For What and Why?

Pleasure is enhanced when as a vagina owner you are wet, lubricated or if you are enjoying anal sex reducing the fiction makes the whole experience more FUN!

Yes, our bodies do make a bit of their own lubrication during sex, it is part of the fun that makes sex amazing! Think about it for a minute, let your mind wander - the slippery-soft surface of a tongue during oral sex. The soft sensitive surface of the vagina during penetration. The sensation really does improve when things are well lubricated.

Our body’s ability to produce natural lubrication varies from day today. It is influenced by your stress levels, your body's hormone level, and so much more. So is our natural lubrication is so variable and sex feels so much better when there is plenty of it why is the idea of using a personal lubricant still so hard for some to come to terms with. Personal lubricants really are essential in your collection, designed for sex.

There is a type of lubricant for every sex activity you can think of. Lubricants can increase your pleasure, extend your sex sessions, and just all-around improve your sex life! 

Now that you've learned why lubricant is essential to an active and pleasurable sex life, let's work on helping you gain the knowledge you need to make educated decisions about the lube you pick.

Types of Lube

We like to keep things simple at BLISS so for simplicity's sake we will break lubricants into three basic categories: water-based, silicone-based, and oil-based. In recent times we have seen the introduction of the hybrid lubricant as well and they are well deserving of a mention.

Based – what does that mean? The "base" is what makes lubricant slippery, you can make things slippery with a water-focused mixture, a silicone-focused mixture, and an oil-focused mixture. 

Each type of lube has its own pros and cons. The activity you want to use the lubricant for will be your best guide when selecting a lube type that will best work for what you need.

Water-Based Lubes

These are all-rounder good lube. They're safe for use with all types of sex toys and safer sex barriers. They clean up easily after use. They work in pretty much every sex act, you still need to check ingredients if you have skin sensitivities or concerns about ingredients.

The downside to these all-rounders is they dry up quickly which means you have to regularly reapply your water-based lubricant. Also, they wash away quickly if you want to play in a more aquatic environment like the shower or bath.

Silicone-Based Lubes

The formula of silicone-based lubes allows them to last much longer. Silicone-based lubricants are generally thinner consistency so the texture of your skin can be felt through the lubricant while still feeling slippery.


Silicone-based lubricants are not compatible with your favorite silicone sex toys. Great for stainless steel toys like the Njoy Pure Wand but not silicone toys because the different qualities of silicone interact with each other and can cause the silicone to break down. However, Silicone-based lubricants are condom safe and safer sex barrier safe.

They take a little more effort to clean off your skin than water-based lubricants but it is as simple as using some soap and water to clean them off your skin.

Oil-Based Lubes

Oil-based lubricants are the thickest and longest-lasting of the lubricants. However, there is a reason why water-based lubricants and silicone-based lubricants are the more popular lubricants on the market because oil-based lubricants can only be used in specific circumstances.

Oil-based lubricants aren't safe for use with condoms or other latex-based safer-sex barriers. They break down the condom materials, and they can stain or damage the material of some sex toys. Some HCPs caution the use of oil-based lubricants as some can leave a coating on the vagina that the vagina may find hard to naturally clean up being the self-cleaning wonder that it is. They are not all bad and some vulva owners prefer a high-quality oil-based lubricant so they may be worth a try. Penis owners may love them for masturbation as they last forever. Those who like anal play oil-based lubricants are long-lasting and rarely need to be reapplied.

Hybrid Lubes

Hybrid lubricants are a mixture of two different types of lubes. Commonly that combination is water-based and silicone-based lubricants, you get the long-lasting slippery silicone-based lubricant and the easy-clean water-based lubricant all in one.

How they are combined varies between manufacturers and should be used with caution with toys and in water play. So it’s worth testing your hybrid lubricant of choice in a spot test on  the base of your silicone dildo to test compatibility for example and try a bit between your fingers in water to see how it lasts.

Here are some basic lube recommendations based on the fun activities you're looking to explore.

If you are playing with your silicone toys use a lubricant like Sliquid H2O.

Unscented, unflavored, and designed for sensitive skin and bodies. Sliquid H2O is a quality all-rounder lubricant that is perfect for use with silicone sex toys and most other sexual activities you may choose.

If you are having anal sex or want a little more cushioning, try Sliquid Sassy.

Sliquid Sassy offers a thick gel-like consistency that feels almost pillowy and fluffy. This one is great if you feel like you need a little more cushioning or it can be really helpful for anal sex. Being water-based you may find that it needs to be reapplied, but it does feel like a thicker lubricant.

If you want something organic Sliquid Organics Natural and the organics range is worth trying.

Paraben-free, glycerin-free, and vegan-friendly it is as organic as possible, this silky-smooth lubricant is made with 95% organic ingredients. Sliquid Organic Natural Silk is a hybrid that gives you the organic ingredients you are after as well as the longer-lasting benefit of 12% silicone.

If you want something longer-lasting, then Sliquid Silver or Uberlube is for you.

These two silicone-based lubricants are perfect for anyone who wants to go an entire sex session without having to reapply lube or someone that wants to play in the water. They may not be compatible with silicone toys (try a spot test on a silicone toy first).

Looking for a flavor or something tasty try Sliquid Swirl or System Jo Gelato ranges.

Available in a rainbow of different flavors, Sliquid Swirl uses the H2O base at the beginning of this list and added some delicious natural flavoring to it. Free of sucrose, Sliquid Swirl can also double as an intercourse lubricant if your plans change course. The System Jo Gelato range is good enough to eat on top of ice-cream, in a milkshake, cocktail, or off your sex partner.

 

Disclaimer: The information contained in this document should be read as general in nature and is only to provide and overview of the subject matter. Please read product packaging carefully and follow all instructions. Seek advice specific to your situation from your medical professional or mental health professional. Safe - Sane - Consensual

 


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